Day 4! February 10, 2013

Day 4, Sunday, February 10

Another cold morning here, but the snow is melting, and it looks as if we may get out for a walk today. Cara woke up smiling and happy again, ready for her day. It is so nice to see the smile on her face first thing in the morning. She is starting to trust us to at least feed her every morning. And she loves going to the restaurant for breakfast. She is quite the celebrity there, with everyone hovering around her, asking her what she wants, catering to her every need. They are thrilled to see the little girl who arrived crying the first day, now happy and social. They all come to attention when Princess Cara arrives!

After breakfast we came back to the room just in time for Barry and JoAnn Wester to call. We didn’t get to the phone in time, so I went to the lobby to invite them up. I didn’t want to take Cara back down as she is still wary of leaving the room for anything other than eating.  When they came up, Cara sat in my lap at the writing table, and within minutes of us beginning to talk, she started to cry. I turned her towards me, and she buried her head in my chest, sobbing. I’m not sure what she was thinking, but the last time strangers came to see her they took her away, so I suppose that’s what she was afraid of.  She finally stopped crying, but refused to look at either Barry or JoAnn. At one point she turned her face towards them, but covered her eyes with her hands. About the time the Wester’s were ready to leave, she would finally peek at them and then quickly cover her eyes again. When they did get up to leave she was willing to get down and say good-bye. They gave her Super Nina, which she took, and said good-bye.  They headed off on the long drive to Targovishte to pick up their precious daughter, Anna, tomorrow morning.

Barry and JoAnn, it was wonderful meeting you both! Ron and I are as excited for your pick up trip as we were for us. We both pray it goes better than ours did, and Anna has been better prepared for your arrival. After spending the last three days with our angel, we know how blessed your family will be by the precious child you have rescued! My God bless your family, and especially the newest member with joy and peace!

A bit of explanation regarding Super Nina. Joleigh Little, another adoptive mom of the precious Clara, purchased one of the Incredibles mom dolls, Helen, dubbed her Super Nina, and took her with her to pick up Clara in May 2012. Since that time, Super Nina has been to Bulgaria more times than I can count, being shipped from family to family, so she can continue the adventure and be there when they pick up their children. Most of the kids love Super Nina, but Cara felt we were trying our best to replace her baby, so after the first 10 minutes, she put her down on the bed and wants nothing more to do with her.

We took Cara out for a walk after our visit, heading down through the tunnels under the street and over to the park. I took Super Nina with us, because Cara had no interest. Cara had told the restaurant staff at breakfast that she wanted Pizza for breakfast, so we thought we’d see if we could find it for her for lunch. We had been through the tunnels last October on our first visit, and were both surprised at how many of the shops had gone out of business. Most of the shops were closed because it was Sunday, so we did a little window shopping until we came out the other side. There was a Pizza/Gyro fast food place right at the top of the stairs, so we made a mental note of that, and continued our walk. Super Nina, always on the job, found a telephone and made us wait while she made some calls! Does she ever rest! NO! NEVER!!!  Cara wasn’t all that interested in the walk, and before too long indicated she wanted to return to the hotel. We stopped at the pizza place to get her lunch, and sat down while we waited for the pizza to cook. I tried to engage her in some play with Super Nina, or at least let me get pictures of the two of them, but when I sat Super Nina on the table by her, she pushed her away. Super Nina was not concerned and moved to the other end of the table. Super Nina understands the trauma children experience during pick up week, and was more than willing to give Cara her space. She kept watch, but didn’t push.

Lunch came, and Cara refused to eat! She kept pointing to the big menu above the cash register to the French fries! She was not going to eat anything at all except the fries. I thought I could wait her out, but by the look on her face she was going to be incredibly stubborn about it. I caved and got her some fries, but didn’t give her too many. I tried to get her to eat some pizza along with the fries, but she had none of it. I threw most of the cold fries in the trash and we headed back to the room.

We played games, and lots of puzzles for the remainder of the day. She wants to count the monkeys, over and over again. I love hearing her say them as much as she likes doing it. She is definitely daddy’s girl right now, and though she is attaching to me, she definitely prefers him.

Cara was not happy when it came time for bed. She was very wound up, and bouncing off the walls. She has not been on any kind of schedule since we picked her up last Thursday, and I’m sure she is still very confused. I also suspect she is wondering when we are taking her home. I gave her a warm bath hoping that would help calm her, but that was just dreaming on my part.  I could not communicate with her that it was bed time, although, I think it was more of an “I don’t want to understand.” I went down to the desk to have one of the staff members write out the phrase, “It is time for sleep.” Vreme e da spish.” When I got back upstairs and put my pajamas on I climbed into bed, telling her “Vreme e da spish.” She was standing on the bed, looking at me like she had no clue what I was saying. I repeated it again, and got the same response. I finally had to lay her down, repeat it again, and turn out the lights. And that’s when the tears started. I pulled her close, but she pushed me away, getting as far away from me as she could. She was angry, and when she is angry, she has no problem letting you know! J I told her I loved her, and at some point we both fell asleep.

Today’s photos:

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Super Nina arrives and is thrilled to see we have caffeine in the room!

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Riding the elevator down to the lobby to go for a walk.

 

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Does she ever stop working????? NO! She is constantly “On the job” saving orphans, one child at a time!

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This is the one and only photo I could get of Super Nina and Cara. After this was taken, Cara pushed her away and grabbed her baby.  She will accept no replacements for the coveted “bebe!”

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You can see she was happier once Super Nina moved to the end of the table!

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I mean REALLY? Super Nina??? In the ban yan?

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Making sure Cara is safe in the tub!

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Super Nina does not like this magnified mirror any more than I do!!!

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Cara fresh and clean from her bath and ready for bed.

 

 

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Super Nina on night watch. 🙂